Sharing the glow
The good days! You know the ones, the moment you wake up you can already feel the excitement simmering away somewhere deep in your chest. I dont know what it is or where it comes from, its just known to me as a good day feeling, especially when it hits me even before first coffee.
I can contrast it with slightly less good days of course. Like. yesterday, it started out with some great moments, but punctuated with a really good slice out of my finger because I havent yet learned not to play with scissors, and a kinda flat feeling all afternoon that I blame on the kinda flat weather. It was ok yesterday. I got some stuff done. I played lego. Partly I slept on the couch 😉
But the important bit? I have noticed that the way I am on the inside, totally affects the way other people are on the outside. Does that sound weird? I have started trying to be more conscious of my effect on the people around me. Its far more profound than I had realised. This is not because I am being egotistical or trying to increase my importance in the lives of the people I spend time with. This is me realising that my own frame of mind and the way I am expressing that, spreads to others and impacts them in ways that I would like to be more conscious of. If I am feeling flat, blah, tired, generally just not present, this is just what I get back from other people too. Its not surprising if I think about it 🙂 However what I notice far more is that when I am feeling joyous, creative, enthusiastic, and basically just happy, this is reflected back to me in multiples. Its the times when I laugh the most, turn the music up loud, geek out with my daughter over.. well geeky things 😉 get loud and dont care, make the most creative things and feel the inner glow growing in my chest just because life rocks. I see very clearly that those people I care about pick up on this and respond in such a positive way. This is a really good reminder to me to be considerate, to work on finding that inner something so I can share it better with the people I care about.
In essence, its about seeing this same smile light up my daughters face, ten years on, and keeping it there for the next.. many 🙂
Why is this going on my blog? I am not sure 😉 Its part of my trying to be responsible for how I impact others, writing it, sharing it, makes me think about it. Also, I think it has a lot to do with creativity and sharing. Its just impossible to be creative and inspired if you are feeling flat, burned out, and your enthusiasm is flatlining. I think when thats happening there are some things that can help. For me, I listen to music that gives me some kind of emotional boost, I put on my headphones and turn it up to ear bleed decibels. It blocks out thinking and is my replacement for negativity because, well, it just cant survive the volume. I also have a few really special friends who make me laugh, make me think, and share with me their own inner somethings, its impossible to resist reflecting some of that gorgeousness back again and spreading it to others 🙂
As individuals living in our own little bubbles, its tempting to retreat to a safe and level place, not be responsible for the happiness of others, not have to deal with highs and lows ourselves. But from there we cant reach these golden moments, When we are open to giving and receiving other peoples glow, we can do so much more. We can make each other better people, more creative, more willing to take risks, it really is a case of ‘you get what you give’ and its a constantly reciprocal thing.
I think we can even do this here, right here on this page on your computer screen. I am always incredibly touched and grateful to hear from someone who has seen my work here, or on Facebook, telling me that something I have done has inspired them, something I have shared online. Many of the things I share come from this glow place in my chest, perhaps my enthusiasm is somehow transmitted in the pictures of my work 🙂 I am sure you can do this too. Take your moments of joy and nurture them so they can spread into the world in your creative work. Its amazing the ways some of this shared joy will return to you through others. Amazing and wonderful and it snowballs.
Like Newton says. People should smile more 🙂