Sharing the glow

Posted by on June 1, 2013 in Observations | 14 comments

The good days! You know the ones, the moment you wake up you can already feel the excitement simmering away somewhere deep in your chest. I dont know what it is or where it comes from, its just known to me as a good day feeling, especially when it hits me even before first coffee.

I can contrast it with slightly less good days of course. Like. yesterday, it started out with some great moments, but punctuated with a really good slice out of my finger because I havent yet learned not to play with scissors, and a kinda flat feeling all afternoon that I blame on the kinda flat weather. It was ok yesterday. I got some stuff done. I played lego. Partly I slept on the couch πŸ˜‰

But the important bit? I have noticed that the way I am on the inside, totally affects the way other people are on the outside. Does that sound weird? I have started trying to be more conscious of my effect on the people around me. Its far more profound than I had realised. This is not because I am being egotistical or trying to increase my importance in the lives of the people I spend time with. This is me realising that my own frame of mind and the way I am expressing that, spreads to others and impacts them in ways that I would like to be more conscious of. If I am feeling flat, blah, tired, generally just not present, this is just what I get back from other people too. Its not surprising if I think about it πŸ™‚ However what I notice far more is that when I am feeling joyous, creative, enthusiastic, and basically just happy, this is reflected back to me in multiples. Its the times when I laugh the most, turn the music up loud, geek out with my daughter over.. well geeky things πŸ˜‰ get loud and dont care, make the most creative things and feel the inner glow growing in my chest just because life rocks. I see very clearly that those people I care about pick up on this and respond in such a positive way. This is a really good reminder to me to be considerate, to work on finding that inner something so I can share it better with the people I care about.

In essence, its about seeing this same smile light up my daughters face, ten years on, and keeping it there for the next.. many πŸ™‚

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Why is this going on my blog? I am not sure πŸ˜‰ Its part of my trying to be responsible for how I impact others, writing it, sharing it, makes me think about it. Β Also, I think it has a lot to do with creativity and sharing. Its just impossible to be creative and inspired if you are feeling flat, burned out, and your enthusiasm is flatlining. I think when thats happening there are some things that can help. For me, I listen to music that gives me some kind of emotional boost, I put on my headphones and turn it up to ear bleed decibels. It blocks out thinking and is my replacement for negativity because, well, Β it just cant survive the volume. I also have a few really special friends who make me laugh, make me think, and share with me their own inner somethings, its impossible to resist reflecting some of that gorgeousness back again and spreading it to others πŸ™‚

As individuals living in our own little bubbles, its tempting to retreat to a safe and level place, not be responsible for the happiness of others, not have to deal with highs and lows ourselves. But from there we cant reach these golden moments, When we are open to giving and receiving other peoples glow, we can do so much more. We can make each other better people, more creative, more willing to take risks, it really is a case of ‘you get what you give’ and its a constantly reciprocal thing.

I think we can even do this here, right here on this page on your computer screen. I am always incredibly touched and grateful to hear from someone who has seen my work here, or on Facebook, telling me that something I have done has inspired them, something I have shared online. Many of the things I share come from this glow place in my chest, perhaps my enthusiasm is somehow transmitted in the pictures of my work πŸ™‚ I am sure you can do this too. Take your moments of joy and nurture them so they can spread into the world in your creative work. Its amazing the ways some of this shared joy will return to you through others. Amazing and wonderful and it snowballs.

Like Newton says. People should smile more πŸ™‚

 

14 Comments

  1. It’s been like a ray of sunshine reading your last few posts. Lovely picture of mother and daughter. Just catching up as I been poorly for the last 10 days.
    Thank you for sharing your ups and downs.

  2. Thankyou for writing this.I totally know what you mean. Those days when you are so full inspiration and just ready to create. And then the times when you are sleep deprived puts a damper on things. I want to thank you though because your videos have been so inspiring to me lately. Thanks so much for sharing. You are so awesome!!! I hope to travel there someday!

  3. Beautiful picture of the two of you, wanted to add that. And the music is great.

  4. You always light up my day! I’ve had a project going on with my sister who as you know, lives over in Holland, and I live in NY. We’ve both been badly affected by Lyme. I have daily migraines triggered by light, she has muscle pain. For many years I couldn’t do much of anything in the light and she couldn’t write. I am an artist, she is a poet. What to do! To cope with the pain and all the loss we started a project. It is based on finding good signs and inspiring stories. We make audio quilts by stitching together our personal stories, music, bits from the radio, bird songs, and such. I made gratitude poems and when my eyes improved I made them into boxes. I learned how to knit and knit the poems. Not literally of course, but by finding colors and textures which represented the things I was grateful for. My sister tore words, pictures and stories out of the paper which represented positivity and cheer. She made collages when she couldn’t write. The point of our project was to focus on what we did have, the goodness we could find in the day. That has been our coping mechanism for the past ten years. Not to say we don’t have bad days. We do. Many. But looking forward to the next good day when we can get back creating for the project is what keeps us going. You are part of our tapestry. Your wildly inventive humor and point of view, your stories, your beautiful yarns. Yes! Find and breathe in the glow!

    • Susan I LOVE your story, yours and your sisters, how wonderful! And what a special relationship you have. I really admire how you have found such special ways to keep that bond and connection together despite the difficulties, and creating such art between you πŸ™‚ Love it!

  5. I love this, Suzy! Wonderfully written and very true πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for sharing! xx

  6. Thanks so much for sharing this, Suzy. We all need little boosts now and then.

  7. So wonderful to read this today! I also feel a little bit as if you wrote it for me too. I’ve been realising the past few days that I kind of left a piece of my heart in Scotland that didn’t feel like ending the vacation yet.And I also very recently found out that II’m a stories person. I need stories for inspiration. And I haven’t been giving myself enough time the past few months to read and I miss it. And just before reading this post, I told myself I should give myself time to immerse myself in stories, because I need it and have been doing it ever since I could read. πŸ™‚
    Thank you! β™₯

    • youre so very welcome Deidre, I love stories too, and that we also create our own, and of course I lived vicariously in Scotland with you for a little while too, through your stories πŸ™‚ Now get stuck into a good book woman! Then create!

      • I will! πŸ˜€ Andy is also scouring the internet for me for Buffy episodes and the Tudors πŸ˜€
        I’m so glad to have come to this epiphany actually. And it makes so much sense, since all my pieces are stories in my head, too. But your energy can’t always create it must have some input too πŸ™‚

  8. my mom’s philosophy on when you meet grumpy people on your path… just beam at them, smile big and say Good Morning or Good Afternoon or Good Evening – looking them right in the eyes and keep smiling.. most times they will smile back and say Hi.. and if they don’t… it’s their loss!! I put this into practice today.. we were walking and an older couple (older than us haha) was coming toward us with really sour looks on their faces.. I smiled and said “buona sera!” (good evening) – they stopped, looked at me, smilled and replied with a “buona sera”.. my husbands sai.. ma tu sei matta! (you’re crazy!).. I said.. I know!! isn’t it fun??? πŸ˜‰

    • πŸ˜€ Donna thats fabulous! Surprising people is fun, especially if it takes them out of the grumpy zone, although how anyone could be grumpy on a beautiful evening in Italy I dont know. More Gelato! And buona sera to you πŸ™‚

  9. … beautiful, sometimes it looks like you wrote this for me too…

    • I DID write it for you too my sweet πŸ™‚

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