Posted by on February 3, 2013 in Observations | 7 comments

Life. Its a complex thing huh. Just as you think youve got the hang of it something happens and totally throws you out of your comfort zone. If you are connected to my Facebook page, you may have seen that this last week saw the passing of my Mother in Law. She had been ill for a very long time, but the expectation of this eventuality of course cannot lessen the impact is has on her family. She was a strong woman whose presence was a very definite one that couldn’t fail to make an impression, good or bad, she will be missed.

This is a time when I think its important to stop and re-assess priorities, goals, and maybe reshuffle things in head and heart. Its easy to get into that comfort zone of routines, expectations, daily activities, and taken for granted relationships, and I dont think there is anything wrong with that, I think it must be human nature to find that zone and groove along, finding satisfaction in familiarity and security it brings. But yep, sometimes things happen that remind you to stop and smell the coffee, and this is one of those times.

So what is important? To me its family, friends, creativity and inspiration. In my mind, none of those things could exist independently of each other, and the existence of one is crucial to the existence of the others. In family and friends we find inspiration and creativity, and with inspiration and creativity we find (and make)  family and friends. These things together, in my heart and mind, equal happiness. And happiness is meaningless unless you can share it. Sadness and loss are part of all this, as they remind us also of how blessed we are to actually feel that loss, it means we have loved and lived and shared our lives and happiness with others.

I guess thats pretty much all I needed to say in this post today! The only thing to add to this is a wonderful buddhist quote that sums up something that I believe deeply:

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”

Original watercolour painting. Copyright Suzy Brown 2012


  1. My thoughts are with you. I hope someone brought your family a meal in the 1st few days, as I have experienced in the past. It can be so difficult to think of and organise mundane things at those times. Aroha to you.

  2. Thought and prayers on the passing of your mom-in-law.

  3. Zo mooi geschreven Suzi, Sterkte! (en mooi getekend)

  4. So sorry for your loss, Suzy!

  5. So sorry to hear abiout your loss. Even if a loved one has been ill for a long time deep in our hearts we always hope there is a little miracle about to happen to let them hang on a little longer. Blessings to you and your family

  6. That is so beautiful! And true! Thank you so much for this post! Lots of ♥ to you!

    • Thank you my sweet friend 🙂

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